here for part I.
"Okay José, you told me that I need healing, and that there are some wounds that time cannot heal. So...what do I do now? It's not like I can just wait for my healing"
There is one thing we can do before we are completely healed from a wound.
Intentional healing takes time and energy, and I don't think (while some claim you can) you can simply go through a healing session of a couple of hours and declare yourself completely healed.
But life's demands are immediate and walk we must, even in our wounded state.
And so it is unreasonable that we should wait until our healing is complete so we can finally move on with our life.
In fact, I don't think we can ever get to a point where we can say "I'm completely healed". Life is one of continual intentional healing.
But there is something we can do in the meantime, something we can do about a particular wound before that wound is healed.
Every wound has a voice. This voice can be turned on inadvertently when certain situations in life activate the wound.
It can tells us many things, like you are worthless or you'll never amount to anything or they don't really love you.
These wounds' voices, and the pain its bleeding leaves, can paralyze us and make us act in ways that are not Christlike.
It can make us avoid and hide from certain situations. It can make us sulk in our room, refusing to be consoled and yet yearning for it. It can make us proud and arrogant, convincing ourselves that we don't need someone or something, and thus a cold treatment to the situation or person ensures.
So what do we do with this voice?
One way to go about it is to ignore it. I tried this many times, but ignoring it only seems to make it worse in the end.
We could also listen to it and believe everything it says to us. This only seems to augment the pain, and in the end, we can believe things about ourselves and others that are not necessarily true.
I believe the best way to deal with it while we heal is to acknowledge the voice, and say "it is okay that I feel this way, but this voice is not telling me truth".
In doing this we are not ignoring the wound, we are paying attention to it, and yet we refuse to believe what it has to say as true.
The wound has a voice for a reason. It is like a child crying for attention, asking for help, trying to manipulate us or coerce us into submission.
We would be foolish to ignore it, and we would be miserable if we believe it.
The wound is not saying the truth, but it is saying a truth. It is saying that it needs healing and attention, demanding it with its bleeding and screeching screams.
Whenever a situation arises where I feel my wounds bleeding and telling me something, I have tried this, and I can say that after a while these voices slowly leave me alone.
This is the first step of healing the wound. With this we are paying attention to the wound and refuse to believe what it has to say. We do this before we bring the wound to God, where He can heal it completely.